There has to be a large difference between gay weddings and heterosexual marriages and if that’s the case, what is the difference?
To be honest that there is not a large difference between a gay wedding and a straight wedding. It is in the feelings powering the wedding. Regardless of wherever you go, if there is a gay wedding or a very heavily publicized gay wedding, there will be emotional baggage and not just good or happy, but a huge mix of emotions.
A wedding ceremony is a wedding ceremony. You have a happy set of lovers, friends and family members, a wedding band, cake and someone to bless their marriage. You have 2 individuals that firm up their passion for each other and declare that they will be alongside one another no matter what happens. Weddings are amazing and romantic and full of emotion. The family and friends cry, the happy couple, the brides and bride or the groom and groom are nervous, joyful and excited to begin their lives together and for the lgbt community it means a lot more than it does to the straight community for the reason that until recently, gays were not allowed to get married.
Due to the fact that gays were not allowed to get married, they were not able to have equal rights. They were not able to pay a visit to each other if one of them would end up in the hospital, get parental rights, have rights to the income and live the life that they built with their significant other if one passes away, etc… It was a horrible way to live understanding that if anything happened to the person you loved and spent your life with you could do nothing to help them and not even get to be there with their life partner if they would end up in the hospital or on their death bed. It was an absolutely horrible way to live and for that reason when certain States and the District of Columbia approved gay marriage making it legal, lgbt couples flocked to those states and to Washington DC.
Not only did the gay weddings bring in a nice economic burst for the states and for Washington DC, but gay marriage also brought a feeling of joy and celebration. When you have a community that was kept down for so long and then they are provided freedoms and equal rights, especially ones that involve one of the strongest emotions, love, then when they can finally have those same legal rights that everyone else had, the feeling is a lot more meaningful. A lot of women felt it when they got the right to vote, African American people felt it when they were freed from slavery and gay people are starting to get that same feeling of equality as gay marriage has become legal. That is why there is an extra sense of emotion and also tension when you are at a gay wedding ceremony vs. a straight wedding. It is the celebration not only of love, but also of equality. You do have to bear in mind that I mentioned there were mixed feelings as well.
You’ve still got many States and Commonwealth’s that do not allow gay marriage. There are also a ton of faith based groups that oppose gay marriage too because they think that god hates or discriminates against gays. The truth is that God is supposed to love everyone and make them in his/her own image. If this may be the case, why would he/she despise gays? Because of this unknown reason for loathing a community that never really did anything wrong, these religious groups create protests outside of some gay marriage ceremonies.
These types of protestors stand there with their posters and shout at the individuals who are going in to the gay wedding ceremony. Not only is it offensive but how would they like it if other people showed up and shouted over their ceremonies while they were getting married? The thing is that although gay men and women and gay couples are used to this sort of treatment, heterosexual people usually are not and they sometimes get upset by it. They may lash out at the protestors and they may yell back at them. The thing that they need to keep in mind is that this day isn’t about the protestors, it is about the happy couple and honoring them. If they don’t respond to the protestors and they proceed to feel happy and send out good feelings to the couple getting married, the protestors at some point give up and the only emotion you feel in the building is love and that is the most important and one of the most powerful ones out there.
I was looking at a few websites about gay weddings and they inspired me to write a post about what the actual difference between a gay wedding and a heterosexual wedding ceremony actually is. For me it is about the emotions involved in the two. Each are about love but one is also about the celebration of freedom and equal rights and to watch a couple or the Mother and Father of a couple who had to watch as their Son or Daughter that wasn’t able to marry one another be given the equal rights and be allowed to get married. Because of the equal rights, the emotions run even higher at a gay wedding and reception than they would at a traditional straight wedding ceremony.