One thing people don’t often think of, or when they have to go shopping for a wedding gift for the first time is what do I buy the couple or the person who invited you? The thing is it isn’t what you should buy for them, but what is the difference between buying that person or couple a gift for their birthday vs. their wedding or Christmas.
The thing is that Christmas and Birthday gifts are personal and for the person and for what they like. When you buy a wedding gift, you aren’t actually saying thank you for inviting me to the wedding, but you are buying them something that will help them with their new lives and their partnership. The gift you buy them shouldn’t be something for them because they like it or because it is their hobby, but should help to benefit their partnerships, make their new lives easier or even help with their new home if they bought a house together.
Weddings are celebrating the happy couple’s life together, not their birth or a holiday where it is all about them, the gift should be about their new life and how you can help make their new life easier and better. This is why housewares are usually popular for weddings and wedding couples and to be honest, housewares, mortgage payments, towels, plates, and other things for the home or the couple really help them with their new life together and are completely perfect for helping them with their new lives together.
Now, buying something because it is their hobby is completely good, but at the same time, why not tie it into their house as well. If they like a tv show, get them a piece of art or some coffee mugs with it or even something fun for their game room if they have one. If they are into cooking and have all the pots and pans, find a hard to get recipe book or cookbook or cooking classes that they have to take together, etc… to help with their marriage and relationship.
Shopping for weddings is a bit different than shopping for an individual and the gifts should be about the couple and their life together, not about them or what they like and luckily, most couples actually make it even easier to shop for them by registering at stores like Williams Sonoma, Bed Bath and Beyond, even Target or lower end discount stores so you can take the guess work out and not end up buying the same gift someone else already bought for the couple.
Although it is rude to ask what the couple wants for their wedding, it is not rude to ask where they are registered at so you can go find the perfect gift they already picked out. Find out where they registered and then pick out what you think they would like the most and then bring it to the wedding and wish the happy couple the best of luck. By them registering and making your life easier when having to find something to buy them, everyone will have a much happier wedding, and btw, if they only register at high end stores, don’t feel bad about working the bar at their wedding since they worked your wallet with the wedding gifts lol. I think it is rude to only register at expensive stores since not everyone is well off, but then again, if you are only friends with rich people, you don’t have to worry.
Hope this helps you pick out the perfect wedding gift and to help you understand the difference between what makes a wedding gift different than a birthday or christmas present.