If you’ve been dating and it seems like you’re not having luck with getting someone to be ready for a monogamous relationship, you may not be the problem. The problem may be that you aren’t paying attention to the signs that the other person is giving off. the other person may think they want to find love and be in a relationship, but the reality is that they may not be. One of the leading signs that the person isn’t ready for a real relationship or love is if they are work obsessed. Sometimes the only true love a person has is their job and work. It doesn’t mean the person doesn’t like you or think you’re attractive, it just means their real priorities are with their career now and not in finding love. If this is the person you are dating, then maybe you need to look somewhere else, unless you always want to be second place. Here are three signs that the person is not ready for a relationship because he is already in one with his career.
Cell phones at the table.
If you are on a date and he brings his phone and answers it on your date, he is not only being rude to you, but he is also showing that his job and work is more important. If he was really ready to date and find love, he would make it so that he could have 1 or 2 hours without his phone. Everyone can do it from Fortune 500 executives to real estate agents. It doesn’t matter if they are important or an assistant, they need to put down the phone and get to know you. If they can’t do that during a dinner then they cannot commit to you because they are committed to their phone and their work.
Canceling dates regularly.
It’s understandable to have to cancel a date if something comes up. It happens where you need to work on a project late or you have to do something. The problem is if there is always something coming up and your dates are always getting canceled. Not only is it rude to do to you because it stops you from being able to have your own life, but it also messes up your schedule. If he always has things coming up, then you need to make sure the next thing that comes up is a finger saying goodbye.
Showing up late.
This is absolutely unacceptable. Everyone can make sure they have enough time to make it to a date. Sure you can get stuck in traffic or get lost finding the place, but if you are always late because you had to finish something at the office, you are a little late to be able to date. Think about it this way, if he is always late when you are just dating, what’s it going to be like when you are in a committed relationship or married? You plan special nights and anniversaries and he is always late. You plan a surprise for him but he doesn’t make it home on time. If he is always late when you are dating then you are setting yourself up for him always being late if your dating turns into something more long term.
One of the biggest problems with dating someone that is married to their career is that you will always be second. Even if he is cute, well off and you are in love with him, think about your future. Do you really want to be second to his career? Do you want to wait at home alone at night while he’s late and do you want him to be working while you were supposed to be spending quality time. If you want love and you want a husband and not someone who you love but are always second to a career to, then look for these three things. If he is doing them then he is already married and guess what, it isn’t to you.