I’ve been having a few issues in my relationship lately. I just really feel alone all the time. Relationships, especially new ones are supposed to be exciting, make you feel full and in love. When they don’t then there is something wrong. You may feel like you are in love, and it hurts to think about not being with the other person, but if they aren’t giving off of the same amount of love or if you can’t feel it from them, then there is a serious disconnect. You could both be in love with each other, but if one of you isn’t ready for the relationship, the other person could be hurting and you wouldn’t even know about it. Here are a few things to think about if you are in a relationship and feeling alone. If you feel any of these things, then you may need to think about if it is the right time to be with that person.
When you get together, what is the greeting he gives you? Do you get a friendly kiss or an I’m in love with you kiss? Are his eyes closed or opened? Does he smile or show emotion? Does he give you a kiss like a friend and what is the hug like? These are all questions you need to ask yourself when you see each other. You also need to think about the way you greet him when you see him.
What does he do when you are visiting him? If you haven’t seen him for a few days or a week, does he cuddle with you or sit with you? Does he hold your hand or put his arm around you? If you are watching tv, is he watching with you or playing on his computer? Does he stay in the same room with you? Does he play with something or look through a collection or pay attention to other things?
Before bed and in the morning, what does he do? If he has a pet, does he give the pet more attention than you? Does the dog or cat get a bigger hug, told they are loved and a huge kiss? What do you get compared to it? In the morning, are you greeted with at least the same type of hug or attention as the dog or cat? How does he say good morning and good night to you? If he hugs the dog when getting out of bed, does he also give you a hug or a small kiss?
What does he do in bed? Does he cuddle with you and if he does for how long? If he used to cuddle with you, does he still? Is he near you in bed or does he stay against the very edge? If you try to cuddle, does he let you for a bit or does he constantly pull away? If he pulls away, is it every night or just every once in a while?
Does he have sex with you? Does he let you have sex with him when you want to? Does he push for sex with you? Does he treat sex like its a chore or something he has to do or is it something he is enjoying? Does he seem like he wants sex with you? Does he enjoy it and want to shower with you, hold you, or give you attention after?
New relationships are supposed to be exciting and you are supposed to be in love. You need to ask yourself all of these questions. You also need to think about if he is ready for a relationship. Sometimes he may be in love with you, but he isn’t ready to be in a relationship. Just because he isn’t ready for a relationship now, that doesn’t mean you he won’t be ready later on. If you are always feeling alone because your partner isn’t ready, there is no point in making yourself miserable. Being miserable, but in love, isn’t a good type of love at all. It is hard to break up with someone, but sometimes you have to because its the right thing to do for yourself. It doesn’t mean you don’t love the person, it just means you have to make sure that you are also ok and that you are doing what is right for you. When the person is finally ready to be in love with you, or to be in a relationship with you, you may still be available and then you can start again and get married. Until then you should enjoy life and never feel alone, especially if you are in a relationship with someone you love.