It’s officially engaygement season and happily coupled, but not so ready to get married yet, straight and gay men and women everywhere are terrified. What if he/she decides to propose, what if I have to end it because I’m not ready, what if…. fuck that. That doesn’t have to happen and you can continue your fun relationship without the huge commitment of marriage by being a bit creative. Here are 5 things that you can do to help prevent him or her from popping the question and ending your fun life of a relationship….with sex.
5. Pick up that nasty habbit.
We all have those small annoying things that bug us, but we can overlook. By magically finding a new one (yes this means you have to listen to your partner bitching about work) you may be able to discover something that is annoying enough to keep your partner interested in being with you, but also have second thoughts about if it’s the right time to get married. Seriously, why commit to marriage when there’s time to work on and see if you can fix this issue. Then once you make it through Valentine’s, you’re safe until next October.
4. Leave your browsing history on.
Almost everyone loves sex. Some people might not like to try new things. Use this to your advantage. Try leaving your computer on and your browsing history available. If you have a nosey partner, they may look and notice you’ve been watching a new thing with your porn. Don’t go too crazy or illegal videos, but find something vanilla that might make them hold off thinking it is a phase and something they won’t have to do. If you’re into hardcore fetishes, maybe have regular sex on the history so they think you’re changing away from crazy sex. The trick with this one is to not scare them off, but at the same time make them hope it’s a phase that will pass.
3. Find some stress.
Weddings can be stressful and people don’t want to push you when you’re stressed. If you can make engagement season appear to be a stressful one, you may be able to avoid them popping the question. If they still propose, you can always say, lets wait until work clears so we can focus on the engagement and really enjoy it. This helps you have extra time so that you can plan your next strategy to avoid getting married.
2. Buy matching rings.
Beat them to the finish line. Buy a set of matching rings so that they think you’re testing the waters and that you’ll propose. They may have to wait for engagement season to be over, but by that time they know you’re serious and may wait for you to pop the question…they already have a ring and that security may help to keep them away from a real engagement.
1. Take that luxury vacation.
Spend the money they would have spent on the rings. Engagement and wedding rings are expensive. By making sure you both enjoy the money, surprise plan that expensive vacation so that they won’t want to spend money on matching engagement rings. One trick here is to also make sure the vacation happens after engagement season. If you plan it too close to the season, you risk the proposal happening, especially if you go somewhere romantic.
Sure, most people want to get married, but if you’re not ready and your partner is, that can be a killer for your relationship. You may want to try one of these 5 ways to avoid getting engaged, but remember, there’s always a chance they could backfire. If you have another one you’d like to recommend, leave a comment below.