I know this is a gay wedding site and a gay wedding blog, but I also want to talk about something that is sort of on my mind. Maybe it’s because my friends and I, well just my friends, are getting older that they are all wanting to fall in love and get married. Many of them are trying everything they can to get a boyfriend, or they aren’t really trying but they are constantly saying that they wish they could meet the right person and fall in love then get married. The thing that I don’t believe in is that you have to go searching for love, instead I think that love should find you.
Dating sites seem to work and people get married by using them all the time. Sometimes people meet at singles parties and other times they hookup online and end up falling in love. The thing is that you can be proactive, but if you are desperate for love, you may either end up setting for less than you are worth or ending up setting your standards way to high. In either case the desperation makes your judgment wrong and you could end up with a horrible partner, or you may miss out on a great girl or guy. I think my favorite quote was something that I said to one of my friends who was complaining about being single, “I would rather die without a husband by my side knowing that I had friends while I lived than have a husband who I was only content with in marriage with sitting with me.” The thing is that even if I never get married, I have my friends and they are like my family. When I am down they are there. When I need someone to talk to, I have them and when I am lonely, I know I can always drop by…sometimes I have to bring a bottle of wine to get in lol. The point is that for me it is about having people that love me and that I love in my life.
Not everyone wants to get married or needs to get married to feel complete. If you do want to get married and it is your goal to fall in love, then that is great and I support that, just remember that marriage isn’t for everyone and not all of us are looking for it. I personally believe that love will find you, but you can be proactive and be on dating sites, etc… Just remember to not be too picky and don’t lower your standards to much just so that you can get married. Anyways, I just wanted to vent and rant for a bit because it seems like everyone of my friends is looking for marriage and all of them are pushing me to do the same. Feel free to leave a comment below if you have a thought or opinion and if you are looking for love, here is a post with a ton of gay dating sites that you can try for free.